Friends – here is a communication mistake I have made multiple times.
Sometimes, when I don’t agree with a course of action being proposed, or a decision being made, I will put forward my perspective.
And I will say it multiple times – but despite that, the decision gets made anyway, or the course of action is taken anyway.
I end up frustrated and unhappy that I wasn’t heard – or my needs considered. ☠😈
But here is where MY mistake was. 🤒🤕
Everyone heard WHAT I was saying. What they did not see was HOW I was saying it.
Why? Because my tone did not change. My emotion was neutral. I did not show my passion or enthusiasm or true sentiments about the subject.
Consequently, I did not give the right impression about how I REALLY FELT about the subject.
So, friends, if something is really important to you, consider carefully WHAT you want to say, plus HOW you want to say it. Sometimes, some emotion is exactly what is needed – in order to be heard.
communicationskills #emotionalintelligence
