A tiny idea to think about….
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Friends – what behaviours have you normalised?
😣 Your colleagues dismiss your ideas in meetings
😯 Your peers fail to include you in discussions
😮 Your friend neglects you when you call
😥 Your manager micromanages you
🤔 Your spouse grumbles at you
When did you DECIDE that it was ok to be treated like this?
You are WORTHY of better behaviour from others.
Speak up. Respectfully. 💞💝
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Are you AWARE that these are the ‘good, old days’?
Sometime in the future, you will look back on this time in your life, and you will realise that this was the good old days.
You had love and laughter and peace.
But maybe during this time, while you are living it today, all you see is what you don’t have.
And how tough you have it.
And how much better it could be if only…….
But with a bit of perspective, and time, you will look back fondly and say, ‘those were the good old days.’
Appreciate your ‘good, old days’, friends. Things change in a heartbeat.
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This book should be in everyone’s library.
Everyday Holiness by Alan Morinis.
If you want to be a decent human being whom others see as a role model, then this illuminating guide will show you the path.
It’s something I’m reading currently. 💖 💝
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Friends, have you ever thought about this: How will you BEHAVE on one of your worst days?
Now, let’s assume the worst day is a 6 or 7 out of 10. Meaning, no one has died. Or you or your loved one has not received a dire medical diagnosis.
For everything else, is it possible to PLAN in advance how you will respond?
Let’s say one of the following, or all of it happens to you on the same day:
😳 you are in a car accident where the car is totalled (but no one is injured)
😬 your manager tells you your role has been made redundant
😠 your sibling calls from the police station for drunken, loutish behaviour
😶 your spouse indicates that they need to ‘talk’ to you.
Ok, any one of these could send anyone into a spiral of gloom. But is it possible to DECIDE in advance to act with GRACE and DIGNITY during these events?
Can you decide now that should the unthinkable happens, you will:
❤️ seek to remain calm and controlled
💜 carefully choose your reaction – instead of reacting instinctively
💛 decide which response and emotion is best (anger, irritation, anxiety, blame)
Can you also visualise what you would look like when you are calm, controlled and zen in that moment?
Or do you think that a planned rational intent to an emotional situation never works?
Grace under pressure is something that can be learnt.
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A POWERFUL way to have better conversations.
Here is something to look out for when you are having highly charged or important conversations.
Listen carefully to what is being said. Assess whether it is:
🗯 an emotionally charged conversation OR
🤺 a practical conversation where actions are being discussed.
Respond in kind.
☘ For emotional conversations, do not start laying out an ACTION plan. For example, if your spouse is talking about their rough day, don’t say “you should have gone to HR and ….”
🌲 For practical conversations, don’t start saying how you FEEL about it eg “yeah, well, Bali is not my favourite destination…..”
Match the tenor of what is being said – and you will find the conversations become easier.
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If you are going through tough times, and you can’t make sense of all that is happening, know this.
It is only when you can look at this time through your rear-view mirror that it will make sense.
So for now, accept that some things just won’t make sense.
Continue on your path knowing that as long as you are not hurting others, you are taking the right actions.
There will come a time when you look back, and the full picture will emerge.
And because you will have become a stronger, wiser you (as a result of what you are going through now), you will see the sense in it all.
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Three things that shouldn’t happen with friends.
1️⃣ You look at their life choices and you THINK you are better than them.
2️⃣ Your friends make fun of you. Or give you a hard time about your decisions.
3️⃣ They complain – and bring you down with their negativity.
Time to find new friends, folks. You deserve better. Your friends should:
💜 Make you feel HAPPY when you’re going to see them
💛 Make you want to be BETTER – because they inspire you
🧡 Give you HOPE when things are rough.
Choose your friends wisely. No need to stay friends with folks who don’t bring out the best in you.
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A note to hiring managers.
Let’s say you’re hiring for a role in your team.
Close your eyes and imagine what this ideal candidate might look like.
Now – what picture comes to mind?
👦 A young man?
👵 An older woman?
🧐 Someone with a visible disability?
🧕 Someone from an ethnic group?
Or – someone who looks similar to you and the people you’re most familiar with?
Friends – it’s 2024. It’s time to update our unconscious biases.
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What my shadow self teaches me.
Friends, I have a shadow self. This version of me:
💀 has uncharitable thoughts about others from time to time
☠ convinces me to have that extra slice of cake
👻 persuades me more often than not to avoid exercise
👹 sees only the negative in things which happen around me.
And I’m cool with this shadow self – because it means that each time I am able to let the better angels of my nature succeed, I am HAPPIER as a result.
So every single day, I try to tell my shadow self this:
Not today my friend. Not today. 😇 😇
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